Dating site for science nerds
Some great minds consider this problem notoriously hard: How to help all the young male nerds I meet who suffer from [the dating] problem, in a way that passes feminist muster, and that triggers the world’s sympathy rather than outrage[?
] I believe that, just as there are shy, nerdy men, there are also shy, nerdy women, who likewise suffer from feeling unwanted, sexually invisible, or ashamed to express their desires. :) I spiked it with numerous references, so even if you fine with dating, you may find a few interesting links (I am an unabashed link hoarder). Ideally, I would send it to my younger self (say, 15-25yo - the sooner the better), so as to be spared a lot of unnecessary emotional pain, feelings of loneliness, rejection and isolation. Most people struggle with it at some point, not only nerds. At the same time, the bar is not so high - all you need is to get a bit of understanding of yourself, your body, other people and dating dynamics.
Nerds may get it harder with interpersonal skills and their social rank, see: In short - being very picky and having a main focus other than mating makes dating hard.
Winning a math competition is unlikely to make you much more sexually appealing.
Most of advice here will be focused how to get to this moment.
Also, if you are on the recipient side of a nerd’s (however clumsy) courtship, I hope that you will learn a bit about his POV and be able to help him (whether it means taking command or turning him down in a clear but graceful way).
So, this text is not about: While I use the word nerd a lot, it’s not about self-identification (here is a very stereotypical case in White & Nerdy by “Weird Al” Yankovic).
You don’t need to have your favourite equation or a comic book!
If you really want to dive into this topic: Social life may not be fun, especially during childhood and adolescence - with severity ranging from being an outsider to being totally excluded or actively bullied.
Further, only 65% of MIT graduate students have had sex. So, if you are a virgin, you are still in a good company!
data, according to the Sex by Numbers credibility scale. If you are barely not a virgin, you may be ahead of this intellectual cohort.
While my problems with dating (or rather: not dating) gave me a lot of pain, they also prompted me to put a lot of effort into developing social skills in general.
Sure, there is no shortage of Internet dating advice.
Note that for the sake of this text, I use nerd and geek interchangeably.